Dr. Gary D. Chapman has narrowed down the chaotic ways of love to 5 love simple love languages: words of affirmation; acts of service; receiving gifts; quality time; and physical touches.
He wrote a best seller book called “5 Love Languages”, and travels the world doing various seminars. Dr. Chapman has a Bachelor of Arts and Masters of Arts in Anthropology, and he definitely knows a lot about the world of love. Read on to find out what your love language is, and how it can help you in your love life.
What Is The 5 Love Languages Test?
According to Dr. Chapman, there are 5 different love languages, and although they all technically appeal to people, there is always one main love language that everyone loves to receive from the other person.
The quiz is designed to rank which love language is your preferred one and least preferred one. In turn, you can share this with your partner or know what you are looking for in your next relationship in order to feel loved.
Take The Quiz
In order to take the quiz correctly, for each question you are supposed to select the one answer that suits you best. The tricky part is, if you don’t like any of the options, you still need to choose the one that comes the closest to suiting you.
The same rule applies even if you love both options, you still need to choose the one option that suits you more than the other one does. Remember to record the letter of the phrase that suits you best as you will need that later to find out what your love language is.
1)
A. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you.
E. I like it when you hug me.
2)
B. I like to spend one on one time with you.
D. I feel loved when you give me practical help
3)
C. I like it when you give me gifts.
B. I like taking long walks with you.
4)
D. I feel loved when you do things to help me
E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.
5)
E. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.
C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.
6)
B. I like to go places with you.
E. I like to hold hands with you.
7)
A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me.
C. Visible symbols of love (ie. gifts) are very important to me.
8)
E. I like to sit close to you.
A. I like it when you tell me I’m attractive.
9)
B. I like to spend time with you.
C. I like to receive little gifts from you.
10)
D. I know you love me when I help you.
A. Your words of acceptance are more important to me.
11)
B. I like to be together when we do things.
A. I like the kind words you say to me.
12)
E. I feel whole when we hug.
D. What you do affects me more than what you say.
13)
A. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism.
C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one expensive gift.
14)
E. I feel closer to you when you touch me.
B. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.
15)
A. I like you to compliment my achievements.
D. I know you love me when you do things for me that I know you don’t enjoy doing.
16)
E. I like for you to touch me when you walk by.
B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.
17)
C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.
D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects.
18)
A. I like when you compliment my appearance.
B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings.
19)
E. I feel secure when you are touching me.
D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.
20)
D. I appreciate the many things you do for me.
C. I like receiving gifts that you make.
21)
B. I really like the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention.
D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.
22)
C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.
A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (ie. written or spoken).
23)
D. I feel loved when you help me out with chores.
C. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
24)
C. I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.
B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.
25)
B. I enjoy extended trips with you.
D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily tasks.
26)
E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel loved.
C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.
27)
A. I like to be told that you appreciate me.
B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.
28)
C. Your gifts are always special to me.
E. I feel loved when you kiss me.
29)
A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.
D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have asked you to do for me.
30)
E. I need to be hugged by you every day.
A. I need your words of affirmation daily.
The Results
In order to find your love language, you have to add up the number of times you chose each letter.
If you mainly chose A, your love language is words of affirmation.
If you mainly chose B, your love language is quality time.
If you mainly chose C, your love language is receiving gifts.
If you mainly chose D, your love language is acts of service.
If you mainly chose E, your love language is physical touch.
Based on your results you can see a ranking of your most preferred and least preferred love languages.
What does your love language mean?
Words Of affirmation
This means that you love hearing how much you mean to your partner. This usually consists of verbal compliments or any form of reassurance about how your partner feels for you. Essentially you want to hear lots of sincere, sweet, romantic, and intimate feelings that are only shared between the two of you.
Quality Time
If this is your love language, that means you love having your partner’s undivided attention and you just want to spend as much time with him talking, hanging out, or doing activities together. However, the key word is undivided, no matter what you’re doing, you want to be priority number one and the focal point of his attention.
Receiving Gifts
This love language means you want little reminders in the form of gifts. Your partner should show that he remembered a special date, or that he had just thought of you and wanted to get you something nice.
Acts Of service
This means you want your partner to show how much he loves you by doing some of the things instead of you. Or just by doing certain things for you to show you that you are appreciated, that he wants to help you, and is willing to do things for you.
Physical Touch
This means you just want to feel connected and actually be connected physically in order to feel loved. This can be you wanting to hold hands, be hugged, kissed, or anything that involves that intimate physical contact. This love language entails forms of touches that can be sexual or non-sexual.
Just because you and your partner have a different love language, it doesn’t mean that you are not meant to be. It just means that you like being reminded that you are loved in different ways. This is why it is important to share what your love language is so that way you can accommodate the other person’s preferred way of being showed they are loved.
It is also important to remember that you should not ignore the other love languages just because they aren’t their main one, all of them are important. You should still show you love your partner by using the other love languages as it will help your relationship grow.
Any reminder that a person loves you is extremely important for a healthy relationship, and by using different love languages for your significant other will always impress and keep things fresh.
The other love languages that aren’t their favourite may quickly become their favourite just because they are experiencing it from you. Just remember what their main love language is, as that one will be the one that they want to experience daily, or very frequently.
