Women everywhere keep racking their brains, trying to add spice to their relationships. Lately, this has become a whole complicated process that is needlessly time-consuming.
Men aren’t the hard-to-understand creatures we always make them out to be. We need to look in all the right places and even communicate to find out what they really want from us.
When it comes to whipping up a man’s favorite fantasy, you need to read between the lines and figure out what he likes in bed.
Although no two men have the exact same fantasy, these are the top ten fantasies that get a man’s motor running.
1. Letting their partner take charge
That’s right, ladies. Men love a woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom.
When she does, the man can’t help but enjoy following her direction. Contrary to popular belief, men do love it when we are getting what we want. It turns them from purring kittens into sexual tigers.
Men also love to give us what we want. Now’s not the time to be shy. Let go of your inhibitions and allow yourself to let loose and take charge.
What’s even better is when it’s spontaneous.
2. Role playing
To a lot of men, nothing is hotter than getting into character (and sometimes costume) and playing out an erotic scenario.
Perhaps your man has come up with a scenario where he’s a police officer and you’re the criminal he needs to interrogate? Or maybe he wants to be a doctor and you’re his patient?
Pretending to be someone else adds that extra excitement in the bedroom, as well as the spontaneity, needed to keep the flames of desire stoked.
The both of you could be anyone you wanted, and you can incorporate anything you want into the scenario.
The best part is that there are so many scenarios that you can be a new person every night.
With all the costumes and sex toys out there to go with them, you can come up with new and exciting encounters that will leave you both hot and bothered.
3. Fetishes
This is one of the harder ones to accommodate since you will have to tune into your man’s cues and really find out what he likes.
As mentioned before, no two men have the same sexual desires so it’s important that you look into what your man’s fetishes are.
Also, fetishes can incorporate many things. Some men have a foot fetish. Others love to incorporate food into sex. Other fetishes can be leather, or bondage, or even lingerie.
The most important part of fetishes, though, is to be 110% prepared to accommodate them.
If you don’t want your feet touched, or you don’t want to be tied up, you will need, to be honest, and let him know that it won’t happen.
Otherwise, you will have to walk the walk if you’re going to talk the talk.
4. Submission
There are a number of men out there who love it when a woman takes control. It can go to both extremes, from light control to full on Dominatrix. It all depends on what your guy is comfortable with.
If you haven’t done this sort of thing before, you should do a little bit of research first.
There are plenty of online resources where you can learn from and find ideas to incorporate into the bedroom.
At first, start with little things…like putting a blindfold on him or tying him to the bed.
If you feel he wants more, then it’s okay to take it further. Just remember to stay within his limits.
If he is more into pain and humiliation, you must make sure you can handle being in the position of the punisher.
If not, then you and your man need to set some ground rules and maybe come up with a couple of safe words.
5. Domination
There are also men out there who enjoy becoming a full-on Christian Grey. While they may not have a ‘Red Room of Pain’ like Mr. Grey possesses, they still enjoy taking control of their partner in the bedroom.
This can range from small things like blindfolding you to larger things like putting you in a yoke or another device so that you’re submissive and ready for him.
In these scenarios, there are many things you will have to endure, and it sometimes involves humiliation.
It will involve a little pain (from spanking) or even a lot (from whips and canes).
He may use vulgar words towards you and use punishment if you don’t comply with his commands.
If you feel that you cannot handle being dominated by your man, you have every right to let him know you don’t feel comfortable.
This scenario requires a lot of inner strength and an ability to endure punishment.
You don’t need to be Supergirl to handle being dominated, but you do need to be able to take what he gives you.
6. Threesomes
One of the most common fantasies that men have is having a threesome with two ladies.
While it’s not really an ideal situation for us, it can turn out to be a lot of fun, especially if you’re bi-curious.
There’s something about pleasuring two women at the same time that gets a man’s temperature to rise.
It adds to his sexual prowess and makes him feel like a sex god. Believe it or not, men define themselves on their carnal exploits.
Go with him to a swinger’s club or put up a couple’s profile on Adult Friend Finder’s website to find a lady to join you. This is where the both of you can be picky about who you choose.
Above all, both of you are in this together. My recommendation is to choose a stranger for your third. When friends get involved, things get complicated and messy.
