We can’t go around it, sometimes sex can just be awkward. It doesn’t mean it’s bad. It’s just not always mind-blowing. Especially when we are having sex with someone new, we expect that he is not going to understand what we want and how we want it done. We are more able to express what we do and don’t want sexually, but it’s not always the same for men.
When a man doesn’t like something during sex, he has all of the power to say something about it or even just suggest something different. But with this, it doesn’t always come without judgment. Women are allowed to be self-conscious during sex, but men are expected to be confident and know what they’re doing.
Most men have learned how to use certain expressions to express their lack of self-confidence in bed or even if he wants to do something different. Here is exactly what he means when he says it.
1. When he says, “Do you like that” he’s just making sure you actually like it.
We often see people in movies (not porn, per-say) having sex and the guy says this to a girl. Usually, in the movies, he’s saying it because he knows he’s good and that he just wants to hear her say it. Not because he doesn’t know whether she likes it or not, but because it turns him on to hear her moan while she tries to say that she does.
Most often, in real life, when he asks if you like that, he really needs to know. Maybe he tried something new and he isn’t quite sure if he should stop or not.
It’s a lot easier to try to look like he’s all confident with what he’s doing and asking if YOU are enjoying it instead of asking if he’s doing an alright job. He doesn’t want to look like he has no idea what he’s doing. He wants to make sure you’re enjoying it as much as he is, so he needs to know what to do and what you enjoy.
Even guys get nervous during sex. They aren’t always going to know if they’re doing the right thing.
2. When he says, “How do you want it?” he means “What’s your favorite position?”
Guys are going to enjoy sex no matter what, usually. He’s not going to automatically know what your favorite position is. He can’t read your mind, and it can be nice to be assertive and tell him exactly what you want. He knows he’s going to get his, so he wants to make sure that you get yours. Be thankful for this, not every guy cares if you get yours.
Usually, you’ll know what your favorite position is, right? At least I would hope you do. Women usually spend the entire time doing what he wants to do, if you’re lucky then what he likes is also what you like, but this is not always the case. Take initiative. Tell him what you like instead of waiting for him to ask.
3. When he says, “You know what would be great?” he wants to try something new.