How To Overcome Jealousy In Marriage

In fact, jealousy in a marriage can be even more intense compared to just a long-term relationship, as there is usually more at stake. Vows were taken, families were merged, a promise of forever had been carefully mapped out—maybe even kids are involved.

All things that, if someone were to try and wreck what we have, we would essentially lose everything. Everything we worked so hard for. And that’s why jealousy can eat away at a person and more importantly, at a marriage.

At first, we think that our jealousy will somehow guard us from trouble before it happens, but in most cases, it’s the opposite and it no longer becomes another person ruining things, it’s you.

So, to avoid all that and continue living on in marital bliss, follow these five must-know tips for overcoming jealousy in marriage.

1) Allow yourself to feel secure in your relationship

One of the reasons why jealousy is so common in relationships is due to a lack of security. Think about it, without a rock on our finger or the promise of commitment, we assume that someone else could sweep in easily and destroy what we have.

Thoughts like: What if he finds someone better; Does he flirt with that pretty girl at work?; Would he ever cheat on me? come to mind. But, if your married, you need to take advantage of the extra security you have by allowing yourself to actually feel secure in your relationship.

Your husband picked you, out of everyone else; he made vows to you. Worrying about that cute, new twenty-something secretary or that barista at Starbucks who flirted with him, probably just to get tips, is just a waste of your time.

Sure, you may feel a little bit jealous, but when you allow it to eat away at you and your relationship, that’s when you have a problem. So allow yourself to feel secure in the fact that you’re married and should trust your partner or husband who made vows to stick by your side ‘til death do you part.

2) Don’t play games

Straight up, games are immature. And immature people usually aren’t the ones who are married—they’re usually the ones who are waiting five hours to text their boyfriend back because they’re mad at him, or they’re the f*ckboys who have at least seven different side chicks for every day of the week.

If you’re married, then it essentially means that you were mature enough to commit yourself to one person for the rest of your life, and this is where the games should end.

It won’t make you look great if you’re taking hours to reply to your husband’s text, especially when it could be about something important, or if you get a little too drunk and flirt with his boss at the office Christmas party, and all because you didn’t like the way that co-worker was looking at him, and you wanted to make your husband jealous.

Leave the games for the kids and cut the drama already. If you’re having issues, take the mature approach and be open and honest about how you feel. Don’t skirt around your feelings. You may be surprised to find that he had no idea you were feeling this way. And, if he’s mature also, he’ll do whatever it takes to remedy the situation.