You just broke up 3 days ago. You are getting all kinds of mixed signals. You want your ex back but their actions don’t seem to be matching their words.
They hit you with the “Hey” text out of nowhere.
WTF? What does that even mean???
Here’s what I would do.
This is what we call: breadcrumbs
Your ex is just fishing to see if they still got you. They are checking to see if you still reply with enthusiasm and urgency? In other words, they want to know if you still like them while they make up their mind about IF THEY WANT YOU.
Don’t play into this. She just told you she doesn’t want you. What does that text mean? She’s likely bored at home sipping her caramel-vanilla-pumpkin soy latte bullsh*t looking for attention.
Don’t give that attention to her as tempting as it is to talk to them.
Let her know you value yourself by just not replying.
Be mentally prepared that this could happen and don’t take ANY text as a sign that they want you. I know you feel like you can’t live without them right now, but it’s in your best interest to be aware of this.
This will be challenging and in no doubt test your willpower and patience, but this is what you should do:
1) Ask yourself why they are texting you?
2) What do they want?
3) Does it make sense considering how you guys ended?
If the answer to #3 is no, then those are breadcrumbs. Pointless texts to see where they stand with you.
Being prepared ahead of time will prevent you from making a mistake at this crucial stage.
Payam Pakmanesh, is the author of getyourexback.co. He’s fanatical about self-improvement and growing as a person. Sign up for his newsletter and receive a free copy of his e-book “Get Your Ex Back: 5 Texts You Should Never, Ever Send,” about how to respark that attraction and what you shouldn’t do before you lose your ex forever.